Why do people feel the need to scream at other people?

[Amandistan]

I noticed some people scream very loudly when angry. I find it frightening to be honest. It reminds me of my dad as a kid. It also does nothing to help anything ever.

Today I heard a confrontation that was all screaming and name calling. There were dogs around who were so frightened that they trembled and hid. I had to go under a table and comfort her.

In the end it resolved nothing. It just left people feeling bitter.

I wonder why people do that? Why raise your voice to the point where it scares kids and animals? 
Do people not care about the damage?  They are so wrapped up in their anger that they don't listen to anyone.

They don't hear the opposing side or even consider it. Just shouting loudly. I occasionally slam an object down but don't shout at people maliciously and call them names or threaten to sue.

[jc]

Why do people smash their phones up?

Cheers

jc

[ldopas]

Well I must say I very rarely hear people shout at each other these days!

But why did those people do it. All sorts of reasons I guess; unable to control themselves like normal people, inability to cogently put it into a constructive manner, spoilt as children and got their way by yelling, losing the argument.

I ignore anyone who shouts in business, rare though it is.

[Amandistan]

I smashed my smartphone against the wall in a moment of frustration.  I admit that. The ATM ate my card in a foreign country that takes only cash and my bank did not do a damn thing to help.

I don't scream at people the way I heard today. I felt like going and covering myself in a blanket. Not as bad as the poor dogs.

  Living with stranger does let me see the worst in them. Some are kind, others treat others horribly even their own lovers.   However breaking glass, screaming, throwing things, calling names and treating your partner like shit does not help ever.  Nor does calling Turkish workers names and shouting at them. No matter what they have done.

I have mild anger issues but i don't abuse other people.

[Master Ray]

I would also gently suggest why smashing an expensive piece of equipment (when I don't think your current lifestyle suggests you could afford another one) is any worse than raising your voice in a family / friends argument that you know nothing about?  Perhaps there are serious issues in that same argument that are driving people insane with grief and anguish?  Do you know the EXACT ins and outs of that argument?

[Pol]

We have all smashed things in moments of frustration, I certainly have though not for a long time, you soon learn how pointless it is.
Oh the subject of getting angry and shouting again probably most of have done it in the heat of the moment, I will admit to doing it. Again we all learn lessons that being calm but firm works best, easier said than done sometimes

[dilla]

Maybe screaming is the lesser of two evils.If a person can relieve pent up anger by screaming then maybe it's better than lashing out physically at someone.

[Unruh]

John Lennon went through a whole primal screaming phase which resulted in some good music but when it's directed at you it can be distressing all right. I come from a family of screamers. I had two sisters and a mother who would pretty quickly resort to screaming when things got knotty and I absolutely hated it. Screaming  breeds screaming, or the more manly sounding 'roaring'. It's very, very difficult for me to hold my temper if someone is screaming at me. One solution is to try and walk away. The other is to just stay inside alone and never go out. I've been doing that a while now and it's worked out great. Not a harsh word from anyone. But as long-term solutions go, I imagine I'll find it lacking. Then again, my apartment is stacked with good books, good music and I get all the movie channels. And takeout of course. So maybe that is a solution, at least until the money runs out or the world explodes around me.

[Unruh]

Let me amend that. I forgot about Foo-Foo. Rage can be found even here in my Fortress of Solitude. A friend was going to NYC and asked if she could leave her dog Foo-Foo with me. Foo-Foo was one of those tiny yip-yap dogs; about the size of a ferret, constantly bouncing off the walls and getting into things she shouldn't. She got some of my clothes which was annoying but I held it together. But when I woke up to find Foo-Foo devouring a 700 page hardcover book I was 500 pages into, I yelled "Damn it, Foo-Foo !!". The poor, tiny and helpless dog went under a table and looked up at me, trembling and cowering. I felt like an utter shit immediately and still do every time I think of it. The moral of the story is completely ambiguous. Don't yell at anything smaller than you (except bugs) and don't name your dog Foo-Foo.

[Amandistan]

Yes, I get that people scream in frustration but in certain homes that means the next thing is being belted or slapped or have water poured on your face.  That's what comes to my mind as my dad has done it.  I get nearly as helpless as the dogs.

the point is it is frightening to some people and animals. Even if it's good reason if someone did not have a perfect childhood it can trigger horrible memories.

It's harmful.

[Unruh]

If that person can't see and instantly regret the fear and unhappiness their fury causes the ones they're supposed to love and protect, then they're the ones with a sickness. From all the familial screaming I was involved in, I was never told anything enlightening or that helped me improve myself. I had to wait for New Model Army for that. But in the end, my ultimate conclusion about a screamer is that they're unhinged on some basic level. It's not me, or you, or even Foo-Foo. It's them.

[cthulhu]

i think there are situations, when raising your voice or screaming is appropriate.

there is this thing called passive aggression and it really gets to me. when a person is so self indulged, self rightious, talking to you, hurting you knowingly and still smiling..something like that...then why not get angry, and show your emotion with kind of strength and a loud voice..? a little bit of rage. its an human emotion. it can bes treated in a non threatening way. just power and anger. could be an acceleration of tensions but it also can bring people down to the ground, eckognizing whats going on.

i shouted at my son. and i shouted more the younger he was. there were this fights. thils little wonderful alien, breaking the rules, not stopping and knowingly playing you. its a contest. its archetypical behaviour. its about territory and power. and the only language that would work in these moments was a pissed off dad and a loud one.

i always thought of myself as the most loving and understanding and relaxed dad there could be. like, i don't care if you spill something or break something, it doesn't matter. but my son showed me otherwise. i think only parents can relate to that. no, not sons and daughters. only parents.
so there was no violence, but an angry shouting that i don't regret.

again, to emphasis, i don't mean threatening or violence.

"i am not at war"

[Unruh]

Well said Cthulhu. I've felt like screaming that ever since Justin suggested it. Regrettably there's still no word from the Front.
   

[Anna Woman von NRW]

Why do people feel the need to scream at other people?

Because sometimes they fecking deserve it 

[Simon73]

as the tithe of a book which i read about the relation parents children: gridare non serve a niente- shouting is useless