Does anyone else see NMA as an escape from a depressing life?

[Amandistan]

I know some use the music as an escape but does anyone feel they need it. Like desperately need an escape or will spiral into a very deep depression and possibly not survive?   

If so why is NMA this escape?  Even if it's just an escape from something less serious
Or does anyone have a troubled past that uses the music for an escape?

I thought of this when i discussed that NMA will end with friends. I felt as if i can't cope with having my escape from hell end. Not at the moment and panicked a bit. 

Yes, it is sad and pathetic but my past, present and future frighten me greatly.
The only friend i have are from following the band.  If it ends, It's loneliness and emptiness.

[Pol]

Firstly I would like to say I feel sorry that you feel that way Amanda.
I don't feel depressed sure life could be better but then again most people would say that.
My escapes from reality when I'm on my own are music my play station dvds and internet outdoor solo pursuits I enjoy walking especially through the local woods ok I might look a bit of nutter with my mp3 player on but I enjoy it n keeps me at least a bit fitter.

[Shush]

I would say if following the band works for you that way Amanda, stick with it. If it works then that can only a positive. Don't worry about why it works or whether or not it should, no need to over-analyse it. We all need our support mechanisms. If looking forward to the next NMA gig gets you through bad times, like a light at the end of the tunnel, then there's nothing wrong with that

[BlackCountryMaggiD]

It's good to know that you have something that helps you through your dark days Amanda. I guess the great thing about music is even if a band or artist stops creating new music or touring the music will still be there. It doesn't go anywhere. I've met loads of my friends through NMA. NMA were the catylyst but if the end came it wouldn't stop them being my friends!

[Tony S]

I would also add that should the band ever call it a day (and I can't see that happening any time soon), there will always be the back catalogue of music to listen to - and the friends you've made through the band as Maggie Dave says. Also, I know you have a love for Nature, and though I don't suffer depression, so not qualified too well to comment, I would say that being amongst nature and observing wildlife / wild scenery is always uplifting and a tonic for the spirit. In the words of a song "There's always something new, to fall in love with..."  x

[Anna Woman von NRW]

Take solace from wherever you find it.

Music has  a wonderful ability to provide empathy and a sense of "I'm not alone" if it seems genuine and to come from the heart.

Don't question it or analyse it, just accept.

And don't worry about what may happen in the future - do you have any control over that? No.

But it's not an answer to anything. It just provides some relief.

 

[Master Ray]

Oof.  Hardcore message you posted there, A... was hoping to hear something a bit more positive after your change of lifestyle this year... 

Firstly, so sorry to hear you still think that way...

Secondly... why NMA?  Why not?  It strikes a deep resonant chord with us fellow Forum-ites in the same way that The Strokes, Foo Fighters or, I dunno, Taylor Swift does with others.  There's no rhyme, reason or logic to it, it just hits you and hits you hard and you love that reaction accordingly.

Thirdly, and this is the 'tough love' bit... if you really think that NMA are your only 'escape from hell', then I am deeply worried for you.  I also think it's kind of an unfair burden to place on the band.  I know damn well how much they care about their fans and appreciate our support.  But let's say Justin comes down with something like cancer (God forbid it ever happens) and can't sing anymore and the band is over... you will have a life beyond that.  If you can't face that, then it's time to get some help that nobody on this Forum can provide, much less the band... 

You have friends here.  We will do all we can.  But there's a limit, eh?

PM me anytime you want, I've said before that I'm no stranger to 'the black dog on the shoulder'.  I'll do my best.  But I think this is going beyond what we can do here.

Wishing you well.

[Master Ray]

No response from you, A... can't post such a sad message and leave it there, hun...   

[Amandistan]

Well, i think i will survive but be very depressed. Sorry i did not respond sooner MR.
I would feel horrible and completely understand if JS became ill.  It would be very sad.

My new lifestyle takes away some tree but it can't change everything sadly.
The day i posted this was not a good one. 

[Guillaume]

Yes, it is sad and pathetic but my past, present and future frighten me greatly.

The past ("Headlights") and the future can be frightening but the present?...myself i tend to be anxious about the future (unemployment, health, etc) and i am often thinking too much about the past (the good old days and less good old days!...but 'Past is past and never will return" ) but really when you succeed to be there, in the present times, when you just enjoy chatting with friends, listening music, watching movies, or reading good books...it's never frightening!!...Carpe Diem!
Arts, culture are a way to escape from a depressing life indeed, or at least give us some sense, meaning, purpose   to something that somewhat has no sense: life!