My father...

[stephanieD]

Hello,
I don't know why I'm starting to write this here but maybe I need to talk about it ...writing it...

Sorry for those who find it boring..

My father has been in intensive care since Saturday for edema or embolism pulmonary.. he is in the south of France and I live near Brittany.
Last time I saw him was in June. But since mid August,  he hasn't stopped going back and forth to the hospital.

Already for chemo sessions (lung cancer) that have weakened him to the point that he had aplasia.

Then he fell at home,
Fractured femur.
The operation went well but he still can't walk well.

My father is 77 years old,
He is still very solid compared to everything that has happened to him since mid August...

But at the moment, he is very tired and weakened, I hope he still has a little strength and optimism...

I'm so afraid of losing him, I know I couldn't do anything about it if it happens...but I can't prepare for the worst. No one is actually....

[fiddlesticks]

Hi

This touched a nerve. I wanted to write back to send love and best wishes to both you and your father.

I guess times such as these cause us to ask a lot of questions, and make our minds race. I hope you can find a little peace and not be too anxious. Feel free to PM if you need to offload.

Michael

[stephanieD]

thanks for your words.

[Pim]

Hope he will as OK as possible and you can visit him.

[Red]

Thoughts with you and your family

[Digital Man]

I hope your father's health improves and he's around for many more years to come.
My positive thoughts are sent out there for you

[stephanieD]

merci to you all for your kind words.
.. I hope to come to see my parents in May or April ..
Everything depends on the evolution of this health situation in France.. hoping that the vaccine pass will be removed by then..

[Stephanie]

Stephanie, so very sorry to hear about your father - this has to be ever so tough, I do hope your father's health has improved a little bit by now - and I sincerly hope that you can go and see your parents in April, as planned.

I mean, Covid-wise it seems there is cautious cause for optimism - I am keeping my fingers crossed for you and your folks!

Take care!

[Bever]

I'm still very fortunate to still have both my parents, They are in their early seventies, and I have always had a very good relationship with them. Losing them would be tough, but it is the way things go. All we can hope for, is that they stick around as long and as healthy as possible. All the best to you and your dad!

[Rusco]

I lost my father a month ago. He died in his home when he had a heart attack. Last year had been a big tragedy and very sad time. All I can say there was some kind of line how it all begun: Father's wife got a cancer. Then she got an infarct and had to stay in hospital. Father was shocked at home and drank. He nearly died after lyin like a dry sack for 20 hours on the floor when it was +30°C. I called an ambulance.
Then he got yet his last 6 month period of life with loosing present time "near" memory. He recovered a bit, but doctors had to cut his marevan medicine because he couldn't stay sober as his memory didn't work anymore. After being for 3 months without marevan he got the heart attack.

All I could say, go and meet your father. Talk, listen and spend your time with him.

[jc]

So sorry to hear this Tero condolences, if you need anything let me know.

Cheers

jc

[Shush]

My condolences to you Rusco. Best wishes to you.

[Stephanie]

Heartfelt condolences from me as well, Rusco - this is a very tragic story. 

[Tarsier]

So sorry to hear, condolences to you Stephanie and Rusco.
My father survived a lung cancer few years back, now grateful for every day.

[Sarah LA3]

Ah Stephanie

That's a tough read. I hope your Dad gets a little better and that you can still share some happy times.

I lost my mum in 2006 and now my dad isn't doing so well.  He's 76. Not as serious as your dad (so far as we are aware) He's having trouble walking and has balance issues but the docs say it's not a physical thing so must be neurological but no diagnosis. When he falls, he falls backwards and he's starting to get dementia as well.  It worries me a lot. He doesn't want to go into a home or have carer's.  I do what I can.

Take care Stephanie