If you fear someone is being abused, what should you do?

[Amandistan]

Okay, I am staying with a host family and witnessed something disturbing. I have not seen any physical abuse but verbal. It was horrible to hear and I am very disturbed and concerned. 

It's never okay to call your partner who you love a "Stupid ******* *****" and I could not stay with someone who treated me like that.

So what are the signals? She just seems the same but she told us that we should leave the kitchen after he came in and seemed angry.
Should i just leave it alone or look for some signs? I don't want to call the police if it's just verbal but i feel guilty if i do nothing.  Nobody deserves that. I got the same sort of screaming and name calling from my dad and it usually followed with being belted or have an object or glass of water thrown at me. I fear that it will result in the same for this woman. any advice? and what are the laws about this in the UK.

[ldopas]

Amanda, first question. Why wherever you go is there problems? Important question.

[Amandistan]

I don't think there are.  I am certainly not responsible for the way he treats his wife.
If you think it's associated with me, i don't see how it is.

[ldopas]

I don't think there are.  I am certainly not responsible for the way he treats his wife.
If you think it's associated with me, i don't see how it is.

Im not saying it is. But perspective is important. If you want my take, verbal abuse is bad, but is not physical. However, my question ids how long have you been there to make that judgement?

[Master Ray]

People in relationships fall out all the time.  They say nasty words.  God knows, I've done that.

Seems like you're pretty new to your recent environment, correct me if I'm wrong.

Could it be that you're projecting your past into your present?  Because if the police get involved, you could be throwing up a whole bunch of horrible shit when you have no right to do so and it could cause serious problems for the folks who have taken you in...   

[Pol]

I'm not saying its right and its not a excuse but I think most of us who have been in a long term relationship have had verbal fall outs with our partners and thinks have got heated, things said that shouldn't have been said. And yes words do hurt and mental abuse is sometimes nearly as bad as physical.
We weren't there so its hard to judge I would try and speak to the female partner alone first before making any decision
Hope this helps

[ldopas]

Amanda, first question. Why wherever you go is there problems? Important question.

Hey, apologies if this sounded too harsh, I didn't mean it like I posted it. I had a lot of beer last night! 

[Amandistan]

I think it's fine. It was just verbal and just a fight.
I have been there less than a week. I am not so much projecting my past but considering what could happen.
I was frightened by it and posted it after. i have not idea why.